For Muslim spouses: Top 7 questions to ask before getting married

Most people about to get married feel fear and confusion, because the other party is unknown to them, and dozens of questions revolve in their minds about this person. Therefore, we have prepared this article for you, in which we will help you know the most important questions to ask before getting married so that you can organize your thoughts before the first session with your life partner.

1. Questions focused on Deen

The first part of the questions to ask before you get married should be related to Deen because Deen is the basis of our lives as Muslims. Ask your potential life partner questions about the role of deen in his life currently. Do you pray regularly or intermittently? Do you read and memorize the Holy Quran?

What about fasting in Ramadan? And do you give zakat to the poor? What kind of Islamic activities do you volunteer or participate in? In short, you should ensure that your life partner applies the basics of religion from the Holy Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet in his daily life, in word and deed.

2. Questions to ask before getting married about family and friends

Your life partner is influenced by the people around him, such as family and friends, so it is necessary to know more about them through some questions, such as: Are all your family members Muslims or from another religion? How is the relationship between you and your family members? 

Do you visit your family members constantly? Find out carefully if your potential life partner is a social person keen on maintaining family ties (kinship).

In addition, ask your life partner some questions related to his relationships with the opposite sex, whether they are from within his family or his friends. Will you maintain those relationships after marriage? Are you living with any of your family members currently?  Do you plan to host any of them to live with us after marriage? 

3. Second marriage & polygyny

Islam allows a man to have multiple wives as long as the man can be fair between them in rights and duties. However, the issue of polygyny is sensitive for some people, so it should be discussed clearly before marriage.

Find out your partner’s opinion on the issue of polygamy through some direct questions, such as: What do you think of polygyny? Do you agree to polygyny in the future? Do you realize that polygyny is permissible for men and forbidden for women in Islam?

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4. Questions related to children and their upbringing

There should be clear questions about children and the methods of raising them, for example: Do you believe in abortion in your family? Do you currently have children? what is your relationship with them?

Were they born from a legitimate relationship? Are you planning to have children during the first year or two of marriage? Will you hire nannies for our children and why?

In addition, there are some questions to ask your fiance/fiancee before you get married related to raising children, such as: Will our children attend public schools or private Islamic schools? How do you correct the child’s mistakes by hitting or discussing?

5. Rights and Duties of Men and Women in Islam

Ask questions about the rights and duties of men and women in Islam is one of the most important questions to ask before getting married to ensure that you are both aware of your rights and duties.

 Ask your potential life partner questions related to the following: Mahr, household and housing expenses, obedience to the husband, private marital relations, asking the husband’s permission before leaving the house, work after marriage, etc.

6. Questions to ask before getting married about hobbies and daily routine

To discover your life partner’s personality more deeply, ask him questions related to his hobbies and daily routine, like: What do you do in your free time? Do you spend time with your friends inside or outside the home?

Do you like to travel? How do you spend your weekends? Are you a social or introverted person? And other questions that tell you more about your potential life partner’s personality.

7. Questions about plans and goals

When you Ask your potential life partner questions about plans and goals,  you can imagine your life with him more clearly in the future. so, ask him about his short- and long-term plans. For example, what is your current job? What are your short-term career goals in 3 years? What are your long-term goals in 15 years?

Conclusion

Using the right questions to ask before getting married helps you understand your partner’s personality, and ensure that you are compatible in everything, which reduces problems between you, and prevents divorce in the future. If you are interested in searching for your life partner in the Islamic way, you are in the right place, register a free account on Mawada now, and start your first step to finding Your right life partner.